When I started this site, I wanted to update several times per week. My vision was (still is) posts that mix the personal and the professional. I want to talk about my professional passions of motivating people and helping them to be healthier and happier, but in a personal way that reflects my experience and hobbies. At work, I don’t have the opportunity to get nearly as real about stuff. But at the same time, I don’t want this space to become so completely personal that it doesn’t reflect my professional identity.
It’s a difficult line to walk.
So, I’ve struggled to come up with topics to write about as frequently as I want to. It’s very tempting to make this more of an old-school blog (diary), and get chatty. It’s also weirdly tempting to get all Professor-like. I’m working on striking the right balance, so bear with me. And if you have ideas for things to write about around motivation, health, and happiness, please let me know!
After the Boston Marathon on Monday, the New York Times has a thought provoking analysis of marathon finish times. Theoretically, marathon finish times should be relatively evenly distributed around a mean. In particular, there’s no real reason why, say, a 3:29 finish should be more common than a 3:31. But it is.
I’ve tried to be positive, but I’m just down in the dumps right now. Since I finished the marathon last month, my body’s really crashed. First I had the intense soreness that I think any marathon runner gets, followed by a cold, followed by the onset of spring allergies, and now capped with another bad cold. Basically, it’s been about six weeks since I could reliably breathe through my nose.
In the meantime, I am itching to get back to running and starting to get nervous about being well-prepared for my two spring/summer half-marathons. I watched the Boston Marathon yesterday as always, and while it was fantastic to see my city back in full force, it also made me feel sorry for myself that I’m still sniffling instead of sprinting. I was definitely feeling jealous of the marathon runners. (This is, not coincidentally, the time of year where I always resolve to join a charity team for next year’s Boston Marathon. So far I haven’t done it, but maybe 2015 is the year?)
My goals for the rest of this week are to try not to beat myself up so much for slacking off on the running, to get moving as much as I can without wearing myself out, and to try to kick this cold for good (which will undoubtedly involve self-indulgent naps and mugs of hot tea). I also resolve to get back to yoga, which I have severely neglected since LA. Yoga is so against my nature as an impatient fast mover, which is probably exactly why it’s so good for me. I miss it and my muscles feel the difference having not done much of it lately.
With the anniversary of the Boston Marathon bombings past, and the Marathon itself upcoming, I thought it might be nice to post a link to a recent story that I found hopeful and forward-looking. The Boston Globe recently featured the Richard family, who lost their son and brother Martin. Their story reflects great loss but also great hope, and their resilience is inspiring.
I’m excited for Monday’s marathon. I’ll be volunteering Sunday at the race expo, and cheering on the runners Monday at my usual spot near the finish line. When the race ends successfully and peacefully, the people of Boston will have achieved an important milestone.
This post has been auto-scheduled to appear on my blog. I’m not here posting it, because I am on a beach (or possibly by the pool, in a cabana, or napping in a comfy hotel bed). And you know what? This is a good thing for my work and well-being. Some awesome vacation facts include:
For all of these reasons–plus my love of traveling–I just can’t understand all the Americans who don’t use their vacation days. I consider it my duty as a psychologist and an employee to use mine well. I hope you will too!
I’m not a huge tv watcher, but lately I’ve started watching the show The Good Wife. I’m only five years late to the party. The Good Wife stars Julianna Marguiles as Alicia Florrick, a lawyer returning to the work force after her husband is jailed for political misdeeds. It took me a while to realize it, but one of the reasons I like the show so much is that Alicia, despite being “the good wife” who stood beside her husband as he admitted corruption, is actually a strong female character. One of her best traits? Continue reading Saying No→
When I was training for my marathon, it was pretty clear that I had to add in some form of cross-training. The bitter cold of last winter coupled with my reluctance to pony up for a gym membership led me to spinning, where you can buy classes a la carte. I reasoned that although the individual classes were expensive, I was still saving money over a gym membership I’d rarely use (and feel guilty about). Moreover, I know I’m more likely to follow through on a resolution to exercise if I’ve registered and paid for a specific class.
This morning I went to a 6 am spin class at Flywheel Boston with the lovely Melinda Sarkis. For those of you who know me, I am NOT a morning person, but as I said, registering and paying for a specific class seems to get my butt out the door.
One of the reasons I like Flywheel in particular is that they use something called a “Torq board.” Every bike is linked to a computer. You have a personal screen displaying your current level of resistance, your rotations per minute (RPM), and your “Torq,” which essentially a measure of the work you’ve expended so far. If you opt in, you can compete with others in the class and see your relative rankings on the Torq board at the front of the studio. For me, someone with a very high need for competence, this competition is incredibly motivating. It is not the most admirable thing about me, but I like nothing more than to beat other people in a competition.
But even aside from the competition, the personal metrics are really helpful to me. I think I work harder when I have subjective proof of my efforts. In other spin classes, I can sometimes catch myself rationalizing less effort. But the numbers on my screen don’t lie, so I have a much harder time fooling myself at Flywheel.
This morning I noticed I was doing more poorly than usual on the Torq board. Typically I find myself in 3rd or 4th place for the women (there are always a handful of really gung-ho ladies who take the top spots). This morning, I was struggling to maintain 7th place (although I am proud to say I eventually finished in 4th). I was wondering what was going on. Was it me? I’m not a morning person. I hadn’t eaten breakfast. My legs still feel a little tired from the marathon. Or was it something about the class? Are the people who show up for a 6 am spin class more motivated and/or fit?
Well, this is why I love data. After each class you can view your performance online, and see additional metrics like your mileage. What I discovered when I viewed mine was that I had a slightly below average performance (for me) this morning. So, I have to conclude that my struggles in this morning’s spin class were due to me and not to morning warriors. The good news? It means I have a better likelihood at dominating next time I get up for an a.m. session.
I just recently read The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin for a new book club I joined. On the surface, this is not the type of book I read. I am not a big one for self-help guides (probably because, as a psychologist, I’m fixated on all of the oversimplifications and omissions in these types of popular audience books). I also, sad to say, do not usually radiate positivity and optimism. Let’s just say people aren’t usually surprised I’m from Boston and I do pretty well in New York, too.
So I was surprised to find that the book quickly hooked me. Even more surprising, I actually took action and made some small changes in my life, before I had even finished the book. I made some hard choices about donating clothes I never wear, which both clogs my closet and fills me with unneeded regret about my appearance (and lack of cutting edge style). I took my kitchen knives for sharpening, an inexpensive task that for some reason daunted me but will restore the joy I find in cooking. I redoubled my efforts to find a wireless headset for when I work from home, so I’m no longer tethered to my desk during calls and longing for a chance to grab a glass of water or stretch my legs. Oh, and I got a manicure, which I always need because my nails look terrible–and never get, because my hands look terrible. Even aside from the effects of the changes, just doing these things made me feel good.
Not surprising, since taking action is a way of exercising one’s autonomy. I like the idea of willfully doing something just because I know it will bring me pleasure. I plan to do more of it.
I have lots more thoughts on The Happiness Project I’d like to share, but for now, I’ll leave you with the link to Gretchen Rubin’s site, where she provides toolkits to try a Happiness Project of your own.
I found out a few days ago that my presentation proposal was accepted to UXPA Boston on May 15. I’m pretty excited–user experience is a topic I’m passionate about, and I’ve found it’s not always easy as a psychologist to have a voice in that process. People usually think of designers and information architects when they think of UX, but we psychologists have some things to add too!
The agenda for the conference was just published this week and I have to say I am both excited and intimidated by it. Excited because I’m going to get to see a lot of great presentations that will add immediate value to my day-to-day work–and intimidated for obvious reasons.
Anyway, if you work in the area of user experience, check out the UXPA Boston event. You’ll definitely learn at least one thing, and it’s next door to one of my favorite watering holes, Bukowski Tavern, for post-conference beer time.